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Living With An Ungodly Mate

By R. Tyler 09/01/10

San Diego, CA 92162-0763

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Contents

[1] The Word for believing husbands living with ungodly wives

[2] The Word for believing wives living with ungodly husbands

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[1] The Word for believing husbands

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According to the Scriptures given below, husbands you should live with

your wives wisely with understanding of your wives' weaker nature,

conducting yourselves honorably  with observable good works done

to your wives. For it is God's will that you, by doing good to your

wives, silence the ignorance of foolish and ungodly people. As God's

slave children, live as people freed from sins dominion, but don't use

your freedom in Christ as a way to conceal evil, trying to make evil

appear to be good. Give respectful honor to  your wives.

Unselfishly, kindly, patiently and gently Love  your own wives.

Fear God as you fear fire. Honor your wives' sexual authority over your

bodies (1 Cor 7:2-5). . . . submit yourselves to your wives' sexual

authority over your bodies (1 Cor 7:2-5), with all respectfulness, not

only to your wives when they are good and gentle but also to your wives

when they are cruel and doing evil. . . . For you were called to this,

because Christ also suffered for you,  leaving you an example of

godly suffering, so that you should follow in His steps. . . . When

your wives verbally abuse you, be like Jesus and do not verbally abuse

them in return. When your wives cause you to suffer, be like Jesus and

do not threaten them in return,  but commit yourself to the One

who judges justly. Leave the chastening of your wives to God. Leave to

God the avenging of the wrongs she does to you, for vengeance belongs

to the Lord (Rom 12). Do not forsake, lay aside, leave, put (send) away

an/or divorce your wives because believing wives are maritally bound by

God's Law to you believing husbands as long as you live. Faithfully

"wash" your wives' "feet" with the Spirit's Water, the Word, gently,

meekly and patiently teaching and correcting them when they oppose

themselves, praying that God will grant to them repentance so that they

may know the Truth and escape from the Devil's snares.

***1Peter 2:12 Conduct yourselves honorably . . . observing your good

works . . . For it is God's will that you, by doing good, silence the

ignorance of foolish people. 16 As God's slaves, [live] as free people,

but don't use your freedom as a way to conceal evil. 17 Give respectful

Honor to everyone. Love those who are in Christ. Reverently fear God

[for He is the Consuming Fire]. . . . submit yourselves to those in

authority over you with all respect, not only to the good and gentle

but also to the cruel. . . . 21 For you were called to this,

    because Christ also suffered for

you,

leaving you an example [of godly suffering],

so that you should follow in His steps. . . .

23 when [He was] verbally abused,

He did not revile in return;

when suffering, He did not threaten,

    but committed Himself to the One who judges justly.

. .

***1 Peter 3:2 beholding your chaste behavior coupled with a fear [of

God]. . . 4 . . . the hidden person of the heart, in the incorruptible

[manner] of a mildly humble and peaceably peaceful spirit, which is in

the sight of God of great price. . . 7 Husbands, IN THE SAME WAY [as

Jesus in 2:21-23], live with your wives with understanding of their

weaker nature yet showing honor to the wives as co-heirs of the grace

of life, SO THAT YOUR PRAYERS WILL NOT BE HINDERED.

***Isa 59: 1Behold, the LORD’s hand is not shortened, that it

cannot save, or his ear dull, that it cannot hear [you]; 2 but

your iniquities have made a separation between you and your God,

and your sins have hidden his face from you so that he does not

hear [you].

***1 Cor 7:2 but because of and to avoid sexual immorality each man

should be [sexually] having his own woman, and each woman should be

[sexually] having her own man. . . .4. The woman doesn't have [sexual]

authority over her own body, but the husband [does]; in like manner

also the man doesn't have [sexual] authority over his own body, but the

woman [does]. 5 Do not be denying each other [sexually], unless, it may

be, by consent for a time, that you may devote yourselves to fasting

and prayer, and again be conjugally cohabiting [sexually reuniting],

that Satan tempt you not because of your incontinence. . . . 11 . . .

and a [believing] husband/man should not forsake, lay aside, leave, put

(send) away, divorce [Strongs 863] his wife/woman.  12 But to the

rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has an unbelieving

wife/woman, and she is willing [consents, would like] to [maritally]

continue on occupying a house, reside , cohabiting and/or dwelling

[3611]> with him, he must not forsake, lay aside, leave, put (send)

away, and/or remit [Strongs 863] her. . .15 But if the unbeliever

leaves, departs and/or separates himself [Strong's 5563], he should go

away/depart/separate/leave, [he should separate make the

separation].  A brother or a sister is not [legally, morally,

maritally] bound in such cases [in the Kingdom of God]. God has called

you  to peace. . . . 39  A [believing] wife is bound to her

[believing] husband by [God's] Law as long as he lives. But if her

husband dies, she is free to be married to anyone she wants—only in the

Lord.

A believing husband is bound

by God's law to his unbelieving wife as long as [1] she is willing,

consents, would like to keep on maritally occupying a house, residing ,

cohabiting and/or dwelling  with him, or [2] until the unbelieving

wife leaves, departs and/or separates herself from him.

***John 13:13 You all call Me, Teacher, and,

Lord: and you all say well; for so I am. 14 If I then, the Lord and the

Teacher,

have washed your feet, you all also ought to wash one another’s feet.

15 For I

have given you an example, that you all also should do as I have done

to you.

16 Verily, verily, I say unto you, a servant is not greater than his

lord;

neither one that is sent greater than he that sent him. 17 If you all

know these

things, blessed are you if you all do them.    [From ASB]

***Ephes 5:25 Husbands, kindly, patiently, unselfishly and gently Love

your wives,

even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself up for it; 26

that He might

sanctify it, having cleansed it by the washing of water with the Word,

27 that He might present the church to Himself a glorious church, not

having spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that it should be holy

and

without blemish. 28 Even so ought husbands also to kindly, patiently,

unselfishly

and gently Love their own wives as their own bodies.   

[From ASB]

***2 Tim 2:24 And the Lord’s servant must not

strive, but be gentle towards all, apt to teach, forbearing, 25 in

meekness

correcting them that oppose themselves; if perhaps God may give

them repentance unto the knowledge of the Truth, 26 and they may recover

themselves out of the snare of the devil, having been taken captive by

him

unto his will.

If your wives are snared by the evil spirit beings [2 Tim 2:24-26], God

may bless your fasting prayer to redeem your wives from the snares of

the evil spirit beings.

***Mark 9:25 And when Jesus saw that a multitude came running together,

he rebuked

the unclean spirit, saying unto him, "You dumb and deaf spirit, I

command

thee, come out of him, and enter no more into him." 26 And having cried

out,

and torn him much, he came out: and the boy became as one dead;

insomuch that the more part said, "He is dead." 27 But Jesus took him

by the

hand, and raised him up; and he arose. 28 And when he was come into the

house, his disciples asked him privately, "How is it that we could not

cast it

out?" 29 And He said unto them, "This kind [of unclean spirit] can come

out by

nothing but by prayer and fasting."

In the case of verbally abusive, ungodly and/or cruel wives, this word

on submitting to their sexual authority over your bodies, this word on

not leaving them etc does NOT mean that you have to sleep in the same

room as them, that you have to eat in the same room as them, and/or

that you have to watch TV or listen to something in the same room as

them. If you are poor and only have small dwellings, and you have

verbally abusive, ungodly and/or cruel wives, this word on submitting

to their sexual authority over your bodies, this word on not leaving

etc your wives does NOT mean that you have to stay all day or all night

with them inside your dwellings, but you do have to be with them long

enough to sincerely do genuine good to them, and to submit to their

sexual authority over your bodies, being careful not to sexually deny

them "unless, it may be, by consent for a time, that you may devote

yourselves to fasting and prayer, and again be conjugally cohabiting

[sexually reuniting], that Satan tempt you not because of your

incontinence."

 DO ALL THIS  SO THAT YOUR PRAYERS WILL NOT BE HINDERED AND

SO THAT YOU WILL NOT BE CHASTENED FOR DOING EVIL OR FAILING TO DO GOOD.

If your wives are genuinely saved by total reliance on Jesus alone for

total deliverance from the penalty, power and presence of their sins,

then there are certain things you should do in addition to fasting

prayer to accomplish the deliverance of your wives who are snared in

sin. The following show what should be done with sinning wives in

addition to fasting prayer.

***"24 A servant of the Lord must not argue. Instead, he must be kind

to everyone, teachable, willing to suffer wrong, 25 and gentle in

refuting his opponents. After all, perhaps God will allow them to

repent and to come to a full knowledge of the truth, 26 so that they

might escape from the devil’s snare, even though they have been held

captive by him to do his will." 2 Tim 2 ISV

***"1 Brothers, if a person is caught doing something wrong, those of

you who are spiritual should restore that person in a spirit of

gentleness. Watch out for yourself so that you are not tempted as

well." Gal 6 ISV

***"15 “If your brother sins against you, go and [kindly, gently,

humbly] confront him while the two of you are alone. If he listens to

you, you have won back your brother.  16  But if he doesn’t

listen, take one or two others with you so that ‘every word may be

confirmed by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’  17 If,

however, he ignores them, tell it to the congregation. If he also

ignores the congregation, regard him as an [unbelieving/unsaved]

Gentile and a tax collector." Mat 18 ISV

***1Cor 5: 3 For I myself, though absent in body, have been present

with you in spirit, and in the name of our Lord Jesus I have already

passed judgement, just as if I had been present, upon the man who has

acted in this way. 4 I have decided-having been present in spirit at

your meetings, when the power of the Lord Jesus was with us- 5 To

deliver such a man as this over to Satan, that what is sensual in him

may be destroyed, so that his spirit may be saved at the Day of the

Lord.

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[2] The Word for believing wives

living with ungodly husbands</big>

According to the Scriptures given below, wives you should live with

your husbands wisely with understanding of your husbands' nature,

conducting yourselves honorably  with observable good works done

to your husbands. For it is God's will that you, by doing good to your

husbands, silence the ignorance of foolish and ungodly people. As God's

slave children, live as people freed from sins dominion, but don't use

your freedom in Christ as a way to conceal evil, trying to make evil

appear to be good. Give respectful honor to  your husbands.

Unselfishly, kindly, patiently and gently Love  your own husbands.

Fear God as you fear fire. Honor your husbands' sexual authority over

your bodies (1 Cor 7:2-5). . . . submit yourselves to your husbands'

sexual authority over your bodies (1 Cor 7:2-5), with all

respectfulness, not only to your husbands when they are good and gentle

but also to your husbands when they are cruel and doing evil. . . . For

you were called to this, because Christ also suffered for you, 

leaving you an example of godly suffering, so that you should follow in

His steps. . . . When your husbands verbally abuse you, be like Jesus

and do not verbally abuse them in return. When your husbands cause you

to suffer, be like Jesus and do not threaten them in return,  but

commit yourself to the One who judges justly. Leave the chastening of

your husbands to God. Leave to God the avenging of the wrongs they do

to you, for vengeance belongs to the Lord (Rom 12).

***1 Cor 7:***1Cor 7: 10 I command the married  —not I, but the

Lord—a [believing] wife is not to leave, depart or separate from

[Strong's 5563]  her  husband. 11 But if she does leave,

depart, and/or separate [from her husband - Strong's 5563], she must

remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband . . . 13 Also, if any

woman has an unbelieving husband/man, and he is willing [consents,

would like] to keep on [maritally] occupying a house, residing ,

cohabiting^ and/or dwelling [3611] with her, she must not forsake, lay

aside, leave, put (send) away, and/or remit [Strongs 863] her

husband/man. . . .15 But if the unbeliever leaves, departs and/or

separates himself [Strong's 5563], he should go

away/depart/separate/leave, [he should separate make the

separation].  A brother or a sister is not [legally, morally,

maritally] bound in such cases [in the Kingdom of God]. God has called

you  to peace. . . . 39  A [believing] wife is bound to her

[believing] husband by [God's] Law as long as he lives. But if her

husband dies, she is free to be married to anyone she wants—only in the

Lord.

If a believing wife leaves, departs or separates from her unbelieving

husband (who is willing, consents, would like to keep on maritally

occupying a house, residing , cohabiting and/or dwelling  with her

and has not left, departed or separated himself from her) "she must

remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband." A believing wife is

bound by God's law to her unbelieving husband as long as [1] he is

willing, consents, would like to keep on maritally occupying a house,

residing , cohabiting and/or dwelling  with her, or [2] until the

unbelieving husband leaves, departs and/or separates himself from her.

Faithfully "wash" your husbands' "feet" with the Spirit's Water, the

Word, gently, meekly and patiently teaching and correcting them when

they oppose themselves, praying that God will grant to them repentance

so that they may know the Truth and escape from the Devil's snares.